I’m a Christian. I’m a sinner. I’m a single mother. I’m a crier. Okay … I’m about to break into I’m a Bitch I’m a Lover by Meredith Brooks. Enough of that. I love God. I love my kids and my family. I love Texas! I love my dogs (that’s pronounced dawgs). I love Texas Red Dirt and Classic Rock and that’s what you’ll find playin’ on Pandora around here. I’d describe myself best by sayin’ I’m the perfect blend of Erin Brockovich, played by Julie Roberts in the movie, Debra Morgan in Dexter, with a dash of Lucy! I swear – a lot! And, studies show people who swear a lot are actually very intelligent. Just sayin’!
All playin’ aside – seriously though – I am very passionate about the issues affecting women, children and so many families today. I am also passionate about social justice and hot topics. I also back the Blue.
As a mom of 5 children, 28 years and counting parenting experience (you learn as you go believe me), a previous foster parent and Child Protection Social Worker and Investigator for the past 11 years, currently a Crime Victim Advocate and a Life & Family Enrichment Coach, I’ve worked with and helped hundreds and hundreds of women, children, and families in crisis. I work with victims of crime, victims of physical and sexual abuse and assault, Domestic Violence, people who are struggling with substance use/abuse, mental health, trauma, families who experience the loss of a child or death of a loved one, as well as victims of child abuse and neglect. In doing such, I also coach in self-care and resiliency not only for trauma victims, but for those who work with this clientele.
There’s a saying that we go into the field of Social Work, Law Enforcement, Nursing, and other caregiver roles for a reason. That’s true for me too. I too am an adult survivor of child abuse. Trauma, abuse and neglect made me into who I was. I made me into who I am today. There is hope.
I was raised in a dysfunctional family with an extremely physically and emotionally abusive mother, which I will write about later. I was a young single teenage mother and for a time was homeless living in a week-to-week hotel with my infant baby girl. I’ve been a victim of Domestic Violence and I’ve fought back with all I have. I’ve loved and lost. I’ve been divorced. I’ve been stabbed in the back and hurt and felt like my heart was being ripped out by people I thought loved me. I’ve experienced tragedy, great loss and grief. I’ve been through some crazy shit. I’ve done some crazy shit!
But, I’ve lived life. I’m resilient. I’ve laughed a lot. I’ve cried a lot. I’ve got great friends and those closest to me – ladies, I love you more than you know! Laura, Jena, Shar, Erica … I love your faces! I have the best kids a mother could ask for (even when they’re being little shits – or big shits). And, like Maggie said to Ben in “The Guardian,” I got a few wrinkles here and there, but I’ve layed under thousands of skies with sunny days. I look and feel this way, well cuz I drank and I smoked. I lived and I loved, danced, sang, sweat and screwed my way through a pretty damn good life if you ask me. Getting old ain’t bad Ben. Getting old, that’s earned. Your life is the same as age – you earn it and you own it!
I’ve taken all my life experience, education and work experience, and created Legit Chics. Legit Chics is all about real women, real life, and we are completely uncensored. We tell it like it is! Yes, the fuck word is used… a lot! This site is dedicated to Bad Ass Legit Chics and the stories of their lives, their triumphs, survival, struggles, trauma, loss and grief, and what we all can learn from those experiences. We talk about the real issues … women and children’s social issues, family, victim and survivor stories, social public awareness and education, support and resources.
I’m creating more than just another blog to read, online e-courses, workshops, and coaching services – I am creating a strong community for women. A community – a Tribe – you want to belong to. It’s a safe place where you will come often and want to stay awhile, and invite your friends along. It’s a tribe of friendship and support. Its place where we get to know each other on a personal level, really connect with each other, and support each other. We all want and need a sense of belonging, a sisterhood, friendship, and support – not judgment and criticism. We are not built to go through life alone – and we shouldn’t – and we don’t have to any longer. The Legit Chics Tribe is a sisterhood – all about encouraging, uplifting, validating, educating and supporting women by building their self-esteem and their warrior inside. It’s a place with a lot of laughter and tears – joy and celebration.
You betcha controversial social issues and hot topics will be talked about too – we’re opinionated as Hell. Come join in! Lots of conversations will happen here and in our private Facebook group. I can’t wait to get to know each and every one of you.
Love, Vicki Marie ~